How to Meet Single Women Using Mental Pictures

November 21st, 2008 by Author

It is a known fact that whatever a man can conceive mentally, he can bring into materialization. Meeting and picking up single women for some love, sex, and romance must follow if the proper mental pictures are created and maintained, for this sets in motion the law of cause and effect.

To help you create the mental pictures of meeting and picking up single women, I will describe a very effective method to saturate your subconscious mind with mental pictures.

You well need about four cards. The back of business will do just great. Just write the word, “LOVE CONNECTION,” or any other word or words you associate with meeting and picking up single women with on these cards. Carry one in your wallet, place one on your bathroom mirror, place one by your bed, then another one where you work. Whenever you look at these cards, mentally picture yourself meeting and picking up single women. By placing these cards in various areas, this will enable you to see mentally, the pictures at all hours of the day.

In addition to using the cards during the day, it is best to look at them before you go to sleep at night and upon awaking in the morning and mentally picture yourself meeting and picking up many sexy single women. These two periods of the day are highly important moments to concentrate upon thoughts with added force and emotion. It is helpful to form these pictures throughout the day because the more often you form your mental pictures backed with desire, the speedier the materialization.

In conclusion, you should tell nobody what the words on the cards mean or give anyone any suggestion as to what you are trying to accomplish. Just keep it to yourself. Any outside ridicule or criticism can be detrimental to your success with these methods.

P.S. This article is an excerpt from our best-seller, “The Complete Guide to Meeting Women.”

An Introduction To Free Dating Services

November 20th, 2008 by Author

It is difficult to classify a genre like social networking. Although, apparently, all dating sites are about social networking at some level, some sites (e.g., MySpace.com) allow users to interact with friends, and provide access to music and games. This enables users to chat with their friends, besides finding compatible mates. Also, social networking sites, by and large, do not charge anything. According to research analysts, this is sure to give traditional online dating sites a run for their money. Free online dating services help people meet their dream mate through the use of the Internet. “SocialGrid” (a decentralized social networking community that uses Internet search engines like Google and Yahoo) and “SearchYourLove” (offers internal messaging service) are two popular free online dating service providers.

By becoming a member of one of these sites, it is possible to extend the user’s social network by searching the Net for people with similar interests, goals, desirable traits, and characteristics. The service providers let their members do this for free. The catch, however, is that most services will be free until they reach a certain size; after that they start charging for their services. Once they start charging, the membership growth slows down, and thereafter these services have to advertise to acquire new members in order to survive. The longer a company can hold out without charging membership fees, the larger its membership base will be, which in turn results in an increase in the number of quality matches.

Free dating sites usually mean “free to join” or “free to register.” However, the user is charged for services such as contacting a member, using a detailed search, or searching outside the social network. A dating service that is just launched may offer everything for free until it reaches a few thousand or million members; that is when it starts charging. However, there are some online dating service sites also that remain free always. With such sites, the users can join for free, contact a member for free, use detailed searches for free, and search the entire membership base for free. Some sites also publish materials containing web dating, relationship and flirting tips, and advice on how to behave in different situations.

Love and Dating Tips for Single Moms - Can You Really Do It?

November 19th, 2008 by Author

As a single mom, you may be looking for dating tips because you would like to enter the dating scene and find love, but maybe you are not sure about it.

You might ask yourself if it’s right as a mother to date, or even if you think it is fine, can you have any good success with it and find a great man?

OK, let’s discuss these questions one by one…

Question #1: Is this really right for a single mom to date?

The short answer is: Yes, absolutely!

It’s true that you are a mother and have responsibilities for your kids, but you are still a woman with a heart that wants to “love” and “feel loved”.

So why not go for what your heart desires and deserves?

Yes, there are some people who still seem to have problem accepting and respecting single mothers who date. They might tell you it’s selfish or ask “what about your children?”

But being a mother doesn’t have any conflicts with going out there, having fun, and meeting men. Single moms CAN date, kiss, and even have sex.

So don’t pay attention to what other people might think. You know how much you love your kids and what a great mother you are.

Question #2: Is it really possible for you to have success with dating?

Do single mothers have any good chance to succeed in dating, find a great man, and build a great relationship?

Again, the answer is, absolutely yes!

There are just some things that you need to learn first…

First of all, it’s necessary that you find out who you are and what you want from your life. Find your inner goals and dreams and make a plan to go for them.

Then, not only you will become more happy and fulfilled in your life, but you will also attract much better men who have a great personality and know what they want in their life too.

Another important tip to increase your success in the dating scene, is to educate yourself about dating tips.

You can also search for general “dating tips” in Google because when it comes to love and dating, it’s a universal art and the rules are almost the same for all ages and people.

For example, it’s important that you learn how to have a successful first date by asking the right first date questions.

Because your first date can really make or break your relationship, so it’s important that you have a good conversation by asking the right and smart questions.

Also questions will help you learn that person better and decide if he is the kind of person you want.

Wish you much success with your dates!

Ladan Lashkari

Abc of Breastfeeding

November 17th, 2008 by Author

From the first moment the infant is applied to the breast, it must be nursed upon a certain plan. This is necessary to the well-doing of the child, and will contribute essentially to preserve the health of the parent, who will thus be rendered a good nurse, and her duty at the same time will become a pleasure.

This implies, however, a careful attention on the part of the mother to her own health; for that of her child is essentially dependent upon it. Healthy, nourishing, and digestible milk can be procured only from a healthy parent; and it is against common sense to expect that, if a mother impairs her health and digestion by improper diet, neglect of exercise, and impure air, she can, nevertheless, provide as wholesome and uncontaminated a fluid for her child, as if she were diligently attentive to these important points. Every instance of indisposition in the nurse is liable to affect the infant.

And this leads me to observe, that it is a common mistake to suppose that, because a woman is nursing, she ought therefore to live very fully, and to add an allowance of wine, porter, or other fermented liquor, to her usual diet. The only result of this plan is, to cause an unnatural degree of fulness in the system, which places the nurse on the brink of disease, and which of itself frequently puts a stop to the secretion of the milk, instead of increasing it. The right plan of proceeding is plain enough; only let attention be paid to the ordinary laws of health, and the mother, if she have a sound constitution, will make a better nurse than by any foolish deviation founded on ignorance and caprice.

The following case proves the correctness of this statement:

A young lady, confined with her first child, left the lying-in room at the expiration of the third week, a good nurse, and in perfect health. She had had some slight trouble with her nipples, but this was soon overcome.

The porter system was now commenced, and from a pint to a pint and a half of this beverage was taken in the four and twenty hours. This was resorted to, not because there was any deficiency in the supply of milk, for it was ample, and the infant thriving upon it; but because, having become a nurse, she was told that it was usual and necessary, and that without it her milk and strength would ere long fail.

After this plan had been followed for a few days, the mother became drowsy and disposed to sleep in the daytime; and headach, thirst, a hot skin, in fact, fever supervened; the milk diminished in quantity, and, for the first time, the stomach and bowels of the infant became disordered. The porter was ordered to be left off; remedial measures were prescribed; and all symptoms, both in parent and child, were after a while removed, and health restored.

Having been accustomed, prior to becoming a mother, to take a glass or two of wine, and occasionally a tumbler of table beer, she was advised to follow precisely her former dietetic plan, but with the addition of half a pint of barley-milk morning and night. Both parent and child continued in excellent health during the remaining period of suckling, and the latter did not taste artificial food until the ninth month, the parent’s milk being all-sufficient for its wants.

No one can doubt that the porter was in this case the source of the mischief. The patient had gone into the lying-in-room in full health, had had a good time, and came out from her chamber (comparatively) as strong as she entered it. Her constitution had not been previously worn down by repeated child-bearing and nursing, she had an ample supply of milk, and was fully capable, therefore, of performing the duties which now devolved upon her, without resorting to any unusual stimulant or support. Her previous habits were totally at variance with the plan which was adopted; her system became too full, disease was produced, and the result experienced was nothing more than what might be expected.

The plan to be followed for the first six months. Until the breast- milk is fully established, which may not be until the second or third day subsequent to delivery (almost invariably so in a first confinement), the infant must be fed upon a little thin gruel, or upon one third water and two thirds milk, sweetened with loaf sugar.

After this time it must obtain its nourishment from the breast alone, and for a week or ten days the appetite of the infant must be the mother’s guide, as to the frequency in offering the breast. The stomach at birth is feeble, and as yet unaccustomed to food; its wants, therefore, are easily satisfied, but they are frequently renewed. An interval, however, sufficient for digesting the little swallowed, is obtained before the appetite again revives, and a fresh supply is demanded.

At the expiration of a week or so it is essentially necessary, and with some children this may be done with safety from the first day of suckling, to nurse the infant at regular intervals of three or four hours, day and night. This allows sufficient time for each meal to be digested, and tends to keep the bowels of the child in order. Such regularity, moreover, will do much to obviate fretfulness, and that constant cry, which seems as if it could be allayed only by constantly putting the child to the breast. A young mother very frequently runs into a serious error in this particular, considering every expression of uneasiness as an indication of appetite, and whenever the infant cries offering it the breast, although ten minutes may not have elapsed since its last meal. This is an injurious and even dangerous practice, for, by overloading the stomach, the food remains undigested, the child’s bowels are always out of order, it soon becomes restless and feverish, and is, perhaps, eventually lost; when, by simply attending to the above rules of nursing, the infant might have become healthy and vigorous.

For the same reason, the infant that sleeps with its parent must not be allowed to have the nipple remaining in its mouth all night. If nursed as suggested, it will be found to awaken, as the hour for its meal approaches, with great regularity. In reference to night-nursing, I would suggest suckling the babe as late as ten o’clock p. m., and not putting it to the breast again until five o’clock the next morning. Many mothers have adopted this hint, with great advantage to their own health, and without the slightest detriment to that of the child. With the latter it soon becomes a habit; to induce it, however, it must be taught early.

The foregoing plan, and without variation, must be pursued to the sixth month.

After the sixth month to the time of weaning, if the parent has a large supply of good and nourishing milk, and her child is healthy and evidently flourishing upon it, no change in its diet ought to be made. If otherwise, however, (and this will but too frequently be the case, even before the sixth month) the child may be fed twice in the course of the day, and that kind of food chosen which, after a little trial, is found to agree best.

10 Tips to Make Your First Date Successful

November 10th, 2008 by Author

1. Take her somewhere that you go often - You’ll give yourself a lot of credibility and value if you take her to place where everyone knows you. Stop and chat with the staff there. Learn their names and make sure they know yours. It only says good things about you. If you don’t have a place like this yet, make one.

2. Take her to an interesting restaurant – It’s a lot more fun to go eat sushi or some type of authentic ethnic food than just going to a more common restaurant. You don’t want it too be so interesting that there’s always something crazy going on and you can’t talk to her. Just make sure it is a little different.

3. Relax – The more you relax and show that you’re comfortable, the more your date will relax. If you feel like you’re getting nervous or tense, just take a deep breath, relax your shoulder muscles and smile. Just focus on having a good time.

4. Get rid of your expectations – So many guys that I meet wrap expectations around everything they do. They think, “buying dinner = she’s going to be my girlfriend or wife.” If you just spend the time that you’re together having a good time, acting like you would around someone you already know well and show that you couldn’t care less if anything happens between the two of you, you’ll have a much better chance of progressing things than if you act like she’s the first girl you’ve seen in twenty years, acting really nervous and so dumb that she runs away.

5. Don’t talk about normal boring topics or “guy topics” – If you want to be like every other boring guy out there, talk about what job she has, where she has gone to or goes to college. Only talk about guy topics like sports, lifting weights or something like that if SHE is already very interested in them. Also, don’t cling to a topic like it’s the only thing you can talk about. If a conversation dies, let it go.

6. Have a story or two that you can tell if you run out of things to say – One of the best ways to keep a conversation going is to have a few stories that you can tell at any time. When the conversation stops, just say, “Anyway,” and go into a story. The story doesn’t have to be something too amazing, just a little bit different.

Tell a story about a date that you went on where your date did something embarrassing or funny. Women love to talk about relationships and I’ve found that they are the easiest to come up with. If you’re having problems, just grab a girly magazine and read it for 15 minutes. You should find more than enough things to talk about in there.

7. Know a little bit about a lot of things – You can ask me about almost anything and I probably know enough about it to talk for at least 5 minutes. The more you know about, the easier it will be to hold conversations on just about any topic.

8. If your date wants to talk, listen to her – People like to talk and get the feeling that what they have to say is important. This doesn’t mean that you should ask her endless questions trying to get her to talk. If she’s not talking, feel free to. But, don’t interrupt her if she is.

9. Don’t try to impress your date – One of the worst things a guy can do is talk about how much money he has, what kind of a car he drives or anything else that comes across as trying hard to impress. If you do have a cool house or car, let her find out when she sees it. And if she isn’t impressed by it, don’t be surprised. You’re much better off by just being a relaxed, fun, cool guy than you are trying to impress her.

10. Have a plan – You should have your date planned in advance. And although you should have it planned, you should also be flexible. If something comes up that could be a lot of fun, don’t be so rigid that you can’t change plans. Your plan should be more of a guideline so that you always have something to do.

How to be Adventurous with Women - Out of Box Hot Spots to Bring a Women

November 8th, 2008 by Author

If your first date with her is considered as the first “getting-to-know-you-better” session, the subsequent programmes carry an unsaid message. I have decided to go out with you, to have some fun together. Under these circumstance, follow some golden rules - which demonstrate what activities should be avoided and why. Also covered is what you should do to optimize the opportunity of being with her.

Drinks at Bar

The money to be dished out is heavy normally and the whole scenario is very single oriented. Good for starters only.

Dining at Restaurant

Where is the creativity in dining out? Except may be choosing something exotic for her or discovering a quaint little restaurant in a more quaint street. But at the end of the day, remember you have to foot the bill. And in return you might just get a peck on the cheeks.

Movies

Nothing is as boring as locking yourselves up in a dark theatre. God forbid, if the movie turns out to be bad, it is your choice which is under severe scrutiny!

To add a little spice into the scheme of things and create an interesting environment, try something which has some in-built adventure in it. Here are some easy-to-follow examples:

Local Shops

It is difficult to find a woman who does not like shopping - even window shopping is good enough. The more unusual the shops are, the more energetic she gets. The underground music stores are good places to roam about, browse, share and listen or even buy. Not too hard on the pocket.

Games

A mini golf, the pool club or an arcade - games really help liven up the evening.

Cooking demonstration

Show how domestic you can get. Take her to a cookery program. Immediately shows you care for such otherwise feminine stuff.

Flea markets, bazaars, or fairs

These places can also generate a lot of fun. The antiques, second-hand goods stores are all extremely stirring experiences. And a fair is always fun for people of all ages. Time clicks away in a jiffy.

Click! click! - the photo shoot

I have always found this activity extremely creative. And it’s not very expensive to carry out. Get a digital camera, make your date the subject for the day, and go on clicking ! She feels like a queen the whole time and never mind if all the pictures are taken with her eyes shut! You can have loads of fun even discussing this topic later.

Any venues with a strange or dramatic (historical) background

Castles, old houses, ruins.

But before taking her to such places, do a bit of homework. Let her not find out your poor grades in ancient history!

The above-mentioned activities are very useful because it helps you save your precious dollars, at the same time does not make any compromise on the quality time that both of you decide to have together. Events like candle-lit dinners, etc can be reserved for a later date. Creativity and being “original” is what will keep her attracted to you. Brass tacts of romancing can be organized later, when you know each other better.

How To Be A Sensational Kisser

November 7th, 2008 by Author

To be the best kisser in town, you need to love what you are doing. It is all said and done that kissing plays an incredibly big part in love-making. In fact a good kiss can leads to better and hotter things as they progress. To be a sensational kisser, you have to be in control. Suppose you and your partner have just started kissing and you are about to shift your gears to a deeper kiss, then you should gently start to take the lead by placing your hands on either side of her face and guiding your lips in. When you cup her face in your palms during the kiss, you control the amount of pressure of your mouth on her and she also feels the warmth of your hand on her skin.

You should be vocal during your love-making and post love-making about how kissing her turns you on. You should let her know that she has an invigorating effect on you and her breath makes you all the more crazy for her. You can humorously state that you die for her kiss and when she blushes, you can tell her in lighter vein, that a part of your body has already gone stiff during the kiss. You can be expressive about the kiss by telling her that you had dreamed that she had kissed you in your dream. It is important to not only tell your girl how gorgeous she is, but also that she is great kisser. Women also do have egos and flattery hurt no one.

Always consider that you are new in the kissing arena even though you may have had a few conquests. Every contestant is unique; every girl has her own set of beliefs and attitudes. The fact that there is so much variety around you should not make you feel complacent nor should it make you nervous. Do not be pressurized, strive to exert the right pressure of your lips on her. You do not have to have luscious lips, you do not have to be Mr. Macho and you do not have to have a flat stomach and cute butt. These are not qualifications to be a good kisser. What is needed is the interest to make your woman feel nice. Your mind is the biggest sex organ and your lips are the twin warriors in the game of love and lust.

Practice makes the man perfect. To incorporate new kissing techniques, you can look in a mirror and watch yourself kiss your arm or hand. Imagine how the heat of her lips will feel on yours, how arousing her breath will be, how sweet her saliva will taste and try to imagine every texture and aspect of her lips. This may sound silly but when you are totally in it and concentrate on the sensation, you will get more confidence and flow during the actual kiss. Practice using your lips in its entirety. Imagine kissing your partner’s lips beyond the usual outer edges. Focus on how she will feel when you next kiss face to face by experimenting in front of the mirror. Kiss your own inner wrist first with a puckered mouth, then with a more softly open mouth, so that you feel the warm, wet inner lip.

A woman’s body is the cornucopia of sensitive zones which are kiss-worthy. You can kiss her fleshy earlobe or graze your lips behind her ears. You can softly place your lips on the tip of her nose and give her a cute kiss. The kiss which you can lay on the back of her neck can be really romantic to her. The places like the back of the knees, the underside of her forearm, the inside of her wrist, and the palm of her hand and the curve of her waist are other sensitive zones. There are other obvious erogenous zones like the underside of the breasts, the nipples, the armpits, the inner thighs the bellybutton, the vagina and the supersensitive clitoral hood. Make sure that you use your tongue and your entire mouth to her erogenous areas.

You will stay as a sensational serial kisser- that means a kissing king only if you master the basic rules of etiquette. You should see that in deep kissing like the French kissing, you do not cause harm to her. She should not pass out by the force of your kisses. You should tilt to your head to one side while kissing so that her nose is not blocked. The best thing you can do is watch movies and learn. Soon you will be able to spot a good kiss by looking at one. You should relax and keep your tongue flexible as you probe her tongue and roof and bottom of the mouth with yours. But see that you do not just shove your tongue in and leave her gasping for breath.

A good kisser is recognized for his sexy breath. Stay away from odorous food like onions, garlic, fish etc when you know you will kiss her. Make sure that you brush your teeth or floss before going out on a date with her. If you have to eat a meal with her, see that you have a mint with you that you can pop in after you have finished eating. Your lips should be moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips at least once before you kiss. If your lips are slightly moist, it makes it easy for your lips to move them over her’s and gives both of you a delightfully pleasurable experience. Close your eyes while kissing. Your woman will feel secure and even feel complimented to seeing you enjoying the kiss(that is if she opens her eyes in the middle of the kiss!), though it is most likely that she will have her eyes closed in the encounter. Your lips should be open while kissing, you can choose to move your lips over her in a slow round motion, squeeze her lips lightly with yours, suck her lips with yours or stick them to hers but see that your lips are open rather than being stiff-lipped or tight lipped. when you kiss a woman and then draw back, and you see that eyes stay closed for a moment longer, it typically means that she was quite pleased by the kiss and it is an obvious sign by her for you to take her and enjoy her more.

A sensational kisser is adept at French kissing. He knows the magic of his tongue and what it can do to any woman. His tongue is made to pleasure a woman and all her intimate areas in her bodies, mouth included. With your tongue, you can caress her lips all over by just running the tip of your tongue over them. During the French kiss, make sure that you do not force your tongue far into her mouth but just play with her tongue by circling hers with yours. Caress her with your hands, and she will lead you further as you explore her oral cavity with your tongue. You can suck or bite your partners lip gently in a fit of sexy passion and watch her fight back going to suck and chew your lips with hers. As a sensational kisser, try and keep her guessing about your moves. Kiss her a little, look at her eyes and stroke her face or hair. Then go for a lip-lock again as you caress her sweet spots. Leave her lips and look at her with wanton lust or desire. You will see the same sort of magnetism in her eyes because she has been left high and dry for a moment. Return to her lips once again, take her into your arms and kiss her like there is no tomorrow.

The Power of Authenticity

November 6th, 2008 by Author

How “powerful” are you?

Do you ever cover up how you genuinely feel? Do you ever say what you think you “should,” say, based on how you want others to perceive you?

Do you ever think you “should” be a certain way?

Why?

I’ll share with you why I did in the past. I “thought” I “should” be a certain way, say certain things, act in the manner that I “thought” would bring me either the results I was attached to, or the acceptance of those I wanted.

How powerful was I? About as powerful as a spineless wimp.

When my behavior was incongruent with how I sincerely felt, all I did was give away my power. I then felt less powerful than before.

If my energy went into trying to live up to a fictitious image I “thought” I “should” be, then what I was doing in actuality, was depleting myself of my genuine, authentic power.

There is nothing more powerful than BEING who you really are. Being strong enough to say what you really think, show how you really feel, and act the way you really feel like behaving is called congruency.

This takes guts.

It requires self-respect.

When you are aligned with yourself, THEN you are authentically powerful.

Whose acceptance are you trying to get? Stop. Get your own.

Whose approval are you trying to win? You only need self-approval.

Who implanted the false image in your head you think you are supposed to live up to in order to be enough?

Look at the image in the mirror. You ARE enough, NOW.

If you feel something, say it. You may say something as gently or as graciously as you would like, but make sure that it is said.

If you sincerely want to do something, turn off your head, and DO what YOU WANT to do, without worrying about imagined future results.

If you keep whatever bothers you all bottled up, you will wind up unnecessarily exploding on others. Share your feelings honestly.

You see, once you begin to be authentic, you begin to feel the REAL you.

Once you begin to feel the real you, you will never go back to feeling powerless.

The only way to feel true authentic power is to be true, authentic and congruent. Simply be the real you. Then all feelings of powerlessness diminish.

You will worry far less. You will be more centered. You will feel more in control, because you will not be divided between who you think you should be, and who you really are.

Be who you really are. Then, and only then, will you realize how dynamic your life will become.

© Copyright by Barbara Rose. All Rights Reserved

Why Your Online Dating Profile Photo Is Important

November 5th, 2008 by Author

Your online dating profile photo is the most important part of your profile. Surveys have been conducted where the results prove you are 10 times more likely to get your profile looked at by someone searching on the online dating service when they can see you. This isn’t the only reason why you should have your photo uploaded, there are many more.

Some singles will think they have a good reason not to upload their photo. They might be embarrassed about putting their profile on a dating web site, or feel their photo will hinder their chances of finding a date. Whatever reasons you think you have for not uploading your profile photo not many other singles will see them as good.

Most singles when they first register themselves at a dating web site will fill in the basics so they can start searching the profiles. Then you get the singles who are looking for someone who still only fills in the basics so they can start searching. When other singles see these profiles they will just ignore them. The reason being they just think you’ve registered to search the profiles. Your profile will not look like you’re seriously looking for a date.

If other singles see you have no profile photo they can automatically assume you’re hideously ugly. In which case they will not want to click on your profile. Looks aren’t the be-all and end-all of a relationship but that initial spark usually comes from being attracted to someone’s looks. It’s the first thing on your profile anyone will notice. If there’s no photo they’ll just look for one with a photo.

Online dating services will give singles with a photo on their profile priority in other single’s searches. They are running a business so they’re not going to put a load of search results on someone’s screen with no photos on them. They want singles to get together so their dating service becomes a success. Other singles can specify that they don’t want to be contacted by singles without a photo on their profile so you won’t come up in their search results at all.

Other singles can also assume you’re hiding your face because you’re already in a relationship. Some married people or those in a relationship go online to have affairs. Uploading your photo shows you’re honest and have nothing to hide. Online dating services will advise you in their own help sections to avoid contacting singles with no photo. They want to keep everything as honest and up front as possible.

With your online dating profile photo you keep the dating web sites happy, and keep the other singles clicking on your profile. If you don’t make either of these happy you won’t get the results you’re after. You’re there to find a partner so make it look like you’re looking for one.

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November 4th, 2008 by Author